You make of life what you want, Annonymous Girlfriend
This poster has decided to remain anonymous. She is a young woman from London. She says she is in a happy relationship with a long term boyfriend, and looks forward to having children and a family. She was 22 years old when she submitted her letter, and donated an undisclosed sum to her local Gurdwara.
Around this time, 4 years ago, I vividly recall myself at Chelmsford station on the phone to an extremely elated boyfriend. He had just completed his final A Level exams, and was positively beaming with excitement, He spoke fervently on the phone about all his future plans now that he had finished college.
“Baby, I can’t believe I’m finished…I can’t wait to go to uni in September!”
Oh right, yes, that small problem. In all the excitement I’d almost forgotten that I would soon have to bid the love of my life farewell for four long years. While I tried to put on a brave face, I was quite distraught about the prospect of him moving away to University. We were reminiscing about his first day at Brunel very recently in fact, and we could both recollect every detail like it was yesterday. He was making the big move and I was on the other end of the phone line, listening tentatively, speaking to him as if I was right there. Together we were moving boxes and bags, shifting through old books and posters.
Understandably, this was a big thing and really tested the waters for our future relationship. You may have already gathered that we made the journey together intact, but I can assure by no means was it an easy ride. There was lot of turbulence on the way to put it mildly.
Soon after, the time came for me to move away to University as well, only adding to our troubles. Our relationship was further strained by the large geographical distance between us. Its funny because, in this world that is becoming more and more interconnected, it’s still just as hard to be with the people you love when they’re far away. Nothing compares to the sweet embrace of your significant other. I missed him, and I missed him a lot.
Work became more demanding and deadlines started to get the better of us. I couldn’t help but feel we were slipping away from each other. But each and every time it seemed as if all was lost, there he was, my knight in shining armour. He was always there when I really needed him, and I was right there beside him when he needed me.
So eventually the years passed, and we both made it through these hard times. The boyfriend finished University a month ago. I remember him calling me after coming out of his final exam. After the conversation we both reflected on the separate yet very similar journeys we had taken. “We did it!” I thought to myself. “We actually got through university and were both still together, despite all the odds!”.
So the moral of the story? If you want something enough… FIGHT FOR IT!! Make it work, no matter how tough it may seem, you are the one who is ultimately in control! When we first got together, people would tell us that being in a relationship from such a young age would distract us from our studies. After we went to separate uni’s, people started to tell us we wouldn’t enjoy university life to the fullest and consequently, we would end up breaking up. But I like to think that what me and my boyfriend are is a true example of defying the odds stacked against us. We might still not be together forever, but for now we are coming up to our 7 year anniversary in August. We have been together since Secondary school, and I hope, for many more years to come.
So what I’m getting at is, YOU ARE IN CONTROL! Never listen to negative thoughts, don’t let those who doubt you make you doubt yourself. You decide your own fate, so whatever it is you want, whatever it is you believe, don’t let anybody ever destroy your hopes, dreams and ambitions. Because at the end of the day, I think these are the things that make us human.
What’s a person without a dream? They’re no better than a cold, hard stone. So keep on dreamin’ guys, that is my message to you!